Wednesday, January 15, 2014

How To Choose A Couples Therapy Tulsa

By Marissa Velazquez


At the rate at which separation and divorce has reached in the present day, a quality couples therapy Tulsa is necessary. The family institution being the cornerstone to any society has to be protected now more than ever in the history of humanity. A very small percentage of therapist, 14 percent have formal training in the work they do hence the need to do a god research before presenting your problems to one if you desire to save the cherished marriage. Here are questions you should ask prior to opening your heart.

Always ask a therapist what kind of training they have if any. The specific seminars tended with the topics covered. This way you can know if they are real or just imposing themselves and playing with couple's minds. Ask them the number of married people they see averagely in a 12 month period.

The theoretical perspectives the therapist conceptualize their couples with also matters. The two common theories are emotionally focused couples therapy and the IMAGO therapy. A therapist who incorporates none of these most probably has no idea what they are doing and may just be wasting your time and money.

How a couple communicates with each other, or the lack of communication altogether, is one of the primary reasons why relationships of this nature fall apart. Communication skills between the persons involved need to be improved, and a therapist will have different ways of doing this. A sense of trust between the partners is also essential. A therapist must be able to sufficiently handle these two issues.

In therapy, the married people should be handled together except for cases of violence or deep trauma. If the therapist separates the couple for none of these reasons then they are simple con men out for your money and don't understand the basics of couple's therapy. Married people should only be separated in one session so as to understand each case individually.

Does the therapist have tendency to take sides? This is key to any therapy; neutrality in any instance is paramount for a successful resolution of marital problems. A good therapist should understand couples dynamics and find a way to fit in no matter the situation. He should see the married people as individuals who impact on each other causing further reactions.

Decipher how the therapist sees the married people, either as an emotional bond or just some contract needing renegotiation. When the bond is weak, no matter the exercises the therapist sends them to will not matter and will only result in distress. It is not about what each party should or should not do. It is about understanding how to read each others' emotions and understand the weaknesses and strengths of one another.

A good couples therapy Tulsa can be found with good research. It may not be easy but quality services are always available and a couple out to save their marriage will go any length. Get referrals from those you trust and seek out the therapist they point out. After asking the therapist some questions then you can decide if you are comfortable with them.




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